Why is my desire to have a child still unfulfilled!

The age at which couples have the desire to have a child is increasing, since the right time for starting a family is important to many couples. Furthermore, the role of the mother in society is changing. The media tend to show 40-year old women with their first child as if this were the natural age for being a young mother. The chances of getting pregnant, however, even for the most fertile women is only 20% each month. With increasing age, the fertility also declines and with it the chance of getting pregnant. At the age of 40, only approx. 10% of the ova are fertile. The following reasons can be possible reasons why a pregnancy has still not been achieved:

  • An unhealthy lifestyle
  • Stress within the relationship and caused by the environment
  • The wrong time in the cycle
  • Reduced fertility or infertility
  • Diseases and infections


What is the impact of your own lifestyle?

The lifestyle of both partners can have an impact on their fertility and may reduce it. Being overweight or underweight, for instance, has a negative impact on getting pregnant, as has excessive cigarette and alcohol consumption. Statistically, it takes approx. 5 months until offspring is on its way and many couples wait for a long time before they start trying.

The search for the right partner, occupational education, and the building of a career are reasons why the subject of family planning is often postponed. Financial coverage by establishing a financial cushion is also something that is very important to many couples before they have their first child. 

In which way are the factors of stress and environment associated with my desire to get pregnant?  

When the right time for pregnancy has been found, this often causes stress because you expect to get pregnant right away. Severe stress, however, can have an impact on the maturation of the egg, or can even prevent maturation. Furthermore, many women do not know their own cycle and they are not aware that the egg can only be fertilised during a few days around the ovulation. Here, methods such as temperature measurement during the woman’s cycle or other possibilities such as Cycle monitoring provide help. Too frequent intercourse, instead of producing the desired result, can also rather have the opposite effect. The quality of the semen may be impaired, since the male body cannot keep up with the production of sperms.

Moreover, the direct environment and the Internet provide recommendations and “field reports” which are often incorrect, or which are myths from the subject of trying to achieve a pregnancy. In particular successful couples and women are used to master their life themselves and suffer from the loss of control when wanting to get pregnant. This causes psychological pressure on the relationship, also brought about by the environment. Couples then for example take vitamins, which are said to have a positive influence, dose them incorrectly and in this way even reduce their chances of having a child. Since the excess in the body can reduce fertility. Actually, not getting pregnant is a medical issue which should be clarified professionally as quickly as possible.

Many influencing factors can impair the fertility of couples. The reason why a woman is not getting pregnant in most cases can be treated quickly in the Kinderwunsch Institut by the suitable treatment


What can you do if you haven’t achieved pregnancy yet?

For a couple with the intense desire of having children it is decisive to see that the one and right asset is time. Time means to quickly and determinedly seek professional help. A good institute for this purpose is a centre which provides simultaneous clarification of both partners and which considers the couple as a unit, quasi as a third patient. Another criterion for quality for the clarification process is the time within which the latter is performed. Normally, it should be possible to compile all key parameters or influencing factors which can be improved, within a period of 2 weeks. That means, within one female cycle, so that a consultation for treatment can be carried out before the first day of the next cycle. In this way, the possibility of making a diagnosis of the male partner or the female partner is given, or the results already make it possible  to conduct a treatment.

Arrange for a non-binding initial consultation in the Kinderwunsch Institut today, so that your desire to get pregnant will not remain unfulfilled.